Please excuse the opening to this story but many thoughts come from actions and this post just happened to come about from a rather odd beginning.
I was messing around with my 9 year old son today. Mindless chit chat and stuff. You know what I mean? One of our two adopted cats was sniffing a paw. “Aw…… don’t sniff your paw”, I said. “You have probably been flicking poo with it”.
My son laughed out loud, deeply, from his belly, I laughed with him and we both refrained from giving the cat a cuddle for fear of smelling poo.
Our action, or lack of action, made me think.
Each day we find and read sentences, paragraphs, stories etc on being grateful for what we have, for being thankful for what we have, for being happy for what we have. Maybe, just maybe, there are some of us who can’t get there…yet…. to be grateful, to be thankful, to be happy. Can’t get there yet because we need to ‘flick the poo’ first.
If all we wish to talk about and write about is what we should be grateful for, thankful for happy for etc we are not then actually asking how we really feel. What is holding us back? Where and what are our dark spots? So how are we helping ourselves?
Sometimes, many times, we need to flick the poo before we can even consider what might be left within us. To search through the feelings, the memories, the pain, before we can find that new path to follow. The path of gratefulness, of happiness, of gratitude.
We so often put on a brave face for the world.
Deep inside, there are few of us who have time for someone who wants to pour their heart out. We have become so engaged with those that ‘gush’. We want to hear their life, to hear their stories, their adventures and we walk right past the ones who look forlorn, sad, desperate, unhappy. This includes us, as we try to walk away from our own selves, our own souls, disgusted with the state of our own being.
Regarding others, we say to ourselves, ” oh well, they have brought it upon themselves”, “they should have made more effort”. Assumptions? Have we taken the time to find out what brought that person to where they are now?
No, we just walk on by, just in case they catch our eye…….then of course, we may feel guilty. So we walk on, eager to find the people that we can latch on to and to follow the people we long to be.
Those that we have chosen to ignore, are you sure that they may not once have been a person that you would have wished to emulate? How do you know? You didn’t stop to ask.
You didn’t have the guts.
You didn’t want to ‘flick the poo’ to find out.